UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TIPS
April 9, 2010 by Kerri Salter
Filed under Campus
What One Needs to Know About Being in Unhealthy Relationships
By CAITLYN FIEBER
Staff Writer
Are you worried your relationship is unhealthy and you do not know whether or not to say goodbye? Many couples are uneducated about what an unhealthy relationship consists of. Two Lynn students talk about what they feel an unhealthy relationship is.
“I think a good relationship is built on an emotional connection and strong chemistry. Mutual respect, trust, loyalty, and similar moral values are fundamental factors for a healthy for a healthy relationship,” said Amanda Cartine, senior. If your significant other is not respecting you and is making you feel inadequate, it is time to call it quits. Disrespecting you includes verbal, emotional and physical abuse. If you are being abused in any way, you should get out of your relationship immediately. If you cannot trust the person you are with because you feel they always lie to you or cheat on you, it is unhealthy to put yourself through the fear of always wondering if they are trustworthy or not.
“I think the most important thing in a relationship is to never change who you are for the other person. If you give up everything (girlfriends, going out, etc…) then you’re in an unhealthy relationship,” says Sophia Zagoreos, senior. If you get to a point in your relationship where you stop doing things you normally do like hanging out with friends because your boyfriend or girlfriend is preventing you from doing so, this is an indication that it is not an excellent relationship to be in. Preventing you from doing things you want to do and things you like to do is a sign that the person you are with is controlling. When someone controls what you do it is a serious issue and should never be taken lightly.
Most importantly, make sure you are happy in your relationship. If you are always upset and the person you are dating is not treating you well as a whole, you should not be in a relationship with that person. Usually, a good source to use is your friends and family. They are on the outside looking in on your relationship and can tell you their honest opinion on whether or not they feel you are in a normal relationship.
